WHERE IS LOVE?:

I often have wondered what is love really? I have been taught one thing by the media (books, T.V., movies, etc) and another by the other influences in my life.
Some of those things have told me love is about sex, But what about a love of a parent for the child (Oedipus aside)? Or the love shared between siblings? Others would tell me that love is about the heart and feelings, But if love relies on feeling/s then how can there ever be a “happily ever after”? feelings change from moment to moment.

I have had some insight from God in this. Through the bible that is. Love, he tells us, is patient and kind; it is thinking of others first, it is doing for others EVEN if they don’t seem to appreciate it. It is accepting the pain they inflict on you because they are selfish or angry.
In short it always puts others first, even when you feel like doing things your way instead.
It is seeking to do the needed things for others, EVEN WHEN THEY SAY THEY DON’T WANT IT.

I love certain people so I try to do the things for them that will make them better. When my daughter got stuff in her eye at school, it needed to be removed. Even though she didn’t want me to mess with her eye I still did what needed to be done so that she could start healing. And I stuck to it even through all her screaming and whining BECAUSE I LOVE HER.

I like the way the Greeks did things. They apparently have three words for love. Eros, Fileto, and Agape. These three definitions go a long way towards describing love.
Eros the love of a man for a woman. Husband and wife, the same places we get the word erotic from.
Fileto, love a child would have for a parent or maybe even a man for a friend. Friendly nonsexual.
Agape a deep abiding love. Deeper than the love that is signified by Fileto but still not sexual, a love that God has for us and that we ought to have for God And all of God’s creation.

Each of these loves might have elements that you would expect in another ( a man can love his wife “Eros” and also love his wife Fileto).

The amazing thing is that the love we truly need is seen in God. And that is a love we are supposed to show others.

Read your bible and learn about love. then you will know where it is at.